Dating Tips

Writing your Personal Profile
The key to successful online dating services is writing a good personal profile. This section provides some important advice about just that.

For a moment, imagine that you've been invited to a party, at which there will be many available and interesting people. How would you present yourself? You'd put on your best face, dress elegantly and be witty and charming and friendly, right? Well, those are the "secrets" to writing a good personal ad. It's about showing off your best attributes

The most frequent complaints men share about internet dating are that women don't respond to their ads or their email. You can avoid both these problems by following a few simple guidelines while writing both your free ad and your responses to womens' ads. So here is how to write an effective ad.

BE SPECIFIC. You know who you are and what you want..tell them about it! Almost everyone seems to enjoy 'moonlit walks, candlelight dinners, and strolls on the beach'. Be specific about values held and sought, in addition to naming hobbies and interests. If you know your soulmate is a Buddhist, say so. If you are adamant about remaining childless, convey that too. State your willingness to travel. The ladies in China may not respond when she notes you live in Paris, if you fail to mention that geographic location is no barrier.

ATTENTION TO DETAIL. You wouldn't (hopefully) show up on a first date unwashed and unkempt, would you? Likewise, if your spelling skills are somewhat lacking, consult a dictionary before submitting your otherwise artfully crafted and well-thought-out ad.

BE PATIENT AND PERSISTENT. Women lead busy lives! She might be out of town, her ISP server down, or her old computer has crashed. Wait awhile, then write back, mention your first email, and include the fact that you are really interested in her. BE POLITE and POSITIVE.

GOOD WISHES. A closing statement conveying best wishes whether she chooses to respond to your email or not, speaks volumes about the sender. It may be the one nice thing she has heard all day, and enough to generate a response for you!

BE HONEST, BE HONEST, BE HONEST. One aspect which cannot be over-stated!!

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How to choose a good Dating Sites
So you have come across a dating site that looks promising?

It would be advisable to browse the ads to find out what kind of people use the site. Most dating sites offer a theme, for instance U2Link offer straight ralationships between Chinese ladies and western gentlemen. Some other sites just offer dating between American singles, some go for adult content or alternative.

There are two dating site options to choose from. There are the free sites offering free contact and chatting, and there are the premium sites where you have to pay to contact members. Both offer different services to different kinds of people. Premieum services usually offer more features in the form of better search facilities, customer support and constant site upgrades. Its could be reasuring to know that the email you have just recieved is from someone who has paid money just to contact you, showing a higher level of commitment to find his or her ideal partner?

profiles with photographs get read more often, so consider putting one up. Yes, part of the joy of email is the anonymity, and not focusing on one's looks, but the fact is that still matters to most people. The services don't generally allow for that much to define yourself through prose. A picture is worth a thousand words.

How to Make Contact
You've found a person you want to contact. They were interesting and funny in their ad and had something in common with you. They didn't have two word responses to stock questions and weren't "seeking a beautiful life together, puppies and moonlit beach walks."

Now what?

Write them a quick email or if your a free member a Wink message or two. Just a couple of paragraphs. Women get lots of responses to ads and you want to pique their interest, but not seem too intense. Tell them why you wrote and ask some questions. Show off your strong points in these initial mails. Spellcheck! Do not be negative and don't write more than a couple of paragraphs.

If the person writes you back, exchange messages for a while. No need to rush anything -- flirting is one of the best parts of online dating. it's an artful way of using words, and you get a chance to craft your response over time--perfect if you're shy. If after 3 or 4 emails the person still seems interesting its time to take the relationship a step further.

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Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating
When it comes to Online Dating, things can get pretty tricky. Is he who he says he is? Is she who she says she is? Is he/she honest? A murderer? A rapist? A gold digger?

Whether placing an ad, or using the wink messages be EXTREMELY specific about what you want and don't want. Ask open ended questions, which will assist you in finding out more about the other person.

It is a good idea to communicate via email for at least a month or so before meeting "face to face". ASK lots questions, Be observant that what he/she is telling you remains consistent.

Ask about everything! Marriages, divorce, children, education, career choices, hobbies, likes and dislikes, everything!!!! If available, you may even want to "chat" online several times before actually meeting.

If at all possible, exchange photo's prior to meeting. This will afford you the opportunity to see if he/she has the LOOK that you like. It will also cut down on disappointing surprises. Also, be very honest about yourself, so the other person is not surprised or disappointed either.

The first meeting should ALWAYS be in a public place. Choose a place where you feel comfortable, this will ease your tensions and nervousness and increase your feelings of safety. Do this for the first few subsequent meetings, and remember, NEVER give out your home address, home phone number or place of employment, until you are very sure about the person, or extremely comfortable with them.

Keep in mind, there are some GOOD PEOPLE out there... but, there are a lot of BAD PEOPLE out there also.

In a nutshell...
• DON'T provide ANY personal information
• DON'T meet in a Private Place
• DON'T meet at his/her Home
• DON'T believe everything you're told
• DON'T fall in love with his/her Fantasy Potential
• DON'T lie about your looks
• DON'T send him/her an OLD photo of you
• DON'T forget that there is a REAL person
on the other end of the computer
• DON'T have SEX on the first date
• DON'T have SEX on the second date

• DO be open to this experience
• DO give him/her your pager number
• DO call from a cellphone if possible
• DO meet in a PUBLIC place
• DO arrange a Brief first date
• DO bring a friend along if you feel nervous
• DO bring friends along if you feel Really nervous
• DO afford him/her honesty
• DO use Common Sense
• DO be careful
• DO Have Fun! Date until you find, The One!

Do's & Dont's: Telephone
Never give out your phone number until you know someone well! It may seem remedial to say this, but you may find yourself in the rather difficult position of having to screen your calls, being threatened or scared if you don't heed this advice. If you want to talk on the phone, get the number of a pay telephone near you, and arrange a time when you can be at that phone. Make sure the payphone you select is able to receive incoming calls.

Alternatively, activate your Caller ID Blocking feature so that your telephone number is blocked by the phone company and your phone number is "private".

More Do's and Don'ts
DO... remain anonymous when you create your profile to avoid being identified on-line.
DON'T... use your real name or any part of your name as your profile ID.
DO... be honest in your personal ad and in any emails or online conversations.
DON'T... give false impressions which could later lead to embarrassment or disappointment by either party.
DO... if you choose to post a photo, make it a current one.
DON'T... include your ex-spouse or otherwise significant other in your photo.
DO... get a free anonymous email account, such as Hotmail or Yahoo!
DON'T... give out your work or business email address.
DO... use common sense and rely on your intuition.
DON'T... continue if something seems fishy, funny or harmful. If something feels wrong, it probably IS wrong!
DO... be considerate, respond to correspondences even if just to say no thank-you.
DON'T... leave someone hanging, hoping or guessing.
DO... spend sufficient time corresponding electronically and talking on the phone before agreeing to meet in person.
DON'T... be rushed into meeting someone. IF he/she really wants to meet YOU, they will wait until you are ready.
DO... exchange photos if you feel you are falling for someone and would like to meet in person. As much as we hate to admit it, looks do count!
DON'T... be too disappointed if online (or phone) chemistry is not reality; remember there are more frogs in the pond!

(adopped from www.frogPrincedating.com)

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